#Dysphoric – A four-part documentary series by Vaishanvi Sundar

I am quoting the synopsis from the movie crew, as I feel that there can be no better way to clearly communicate what this documentary series is all about. 

Synopsis:

In this dystopian world where misogyny is rampant, and womanhood is commodified, being female comes at a cost. Corporates capitalise on women's bodies blurring the lines of biological sex and profiting from the empirically untested pseudo-science of queer theory. This gaslighting is aided by the complicity of media, academia, legal and the political world. It is no surprise that young girls are fleeing womanhood like a house on fire.

The past decade has seen a steep rise in the number of young girls seeking to transition by undergoing life threatening, irreversible procedures. ‘Dysphoric’ is a four-part documentary series on the rise of Gender Identity Ideology, its effects on women and girls - especially in developing countries. 

The film explores gender transition, the permanent medical side-effects of hormones and surgeries, the propaganda by 'woke' corporations that glorifies thousands of stereotypical gender presentations coalesced as fashion, a surge in pronoun policing; language hijacking that calls women ‘menstruators’, and the many hurdles women face while trying to question this modern-day misogyny. The film amplifies the voices of detransitioners, clinicians, psychiatrists, sociologists, feminists, academics and concerned citizens.

I was intrigued to watch the documentary series because of the message on the director’s FB timeline, which stated that she would keep uploading every time it gets pulled down. She also is looking for someone to help her to write or talk about this on mainstream media, as she feels that this needs to get attention and discussed as well and I concur. 

The series talks about the narrative surrounding the #GenderDysphoria diagnosis, ensuing hormone-blocking practices, and gender change surgeries by professionals, dissenters, and detransitioners, highlighting the various issues including certain gaps in processes that need to be followed. The focus is on the traumatic experience of the whole transitioning and detransitioning process, which includes not just the physical trauma, but also the emotional rollercoaster and the most pertinent question of ‘informed consent’ for gender change procedures and surgeries by children younger than 16 years of age, when they are developmentally too young to understand the concept of static duality of biological sex and gender identity. 

The 4-part series progressively addresses the various layers of issues surrounding this and why it is essential that we all understand and remain curious about what Gender Dysphoria (#GD) means, without oversimplifying the equation of #GD and Gender Identity. As we view one part after the other, we realise why it is important to create safe spaces to talk about the condition much longer, go through therapy to delve deeper and understand the condition before arriving at a concrete course of action addressing the GD, especially if the action is to embark on an irreversible physical life-altering decision!

There are #detransitioners and #dissenters, their family and therapist also sharing their journey and hence I think this documentary needs to be watched by anyone and everyone as gives a perspective that is easily relatable, irrespective of who you are. Please take some time out to watch this series and understand more about Gender Dysphoria and its ramifications in our world, especially for a woman. 

This post is part of #CauseAChatter with Blogchatter. #LiftEveryVoice 

Hello Dear Zindagi!

After watching the entire movie, my 9-yr old daughter asked, "Is this the end of the movie?" 

B: "Yes. That's the end." 

M: "That's amazing Appa (father in my mother tongue). No love or lived happily ever after?"

Now, I join the conversation between father and daughter to make a point - "There is happily ever after Dear. Why do you ask so?"

M: "No boy-girl love, senseless pursuit and then struggle, no kissing on the lips (ewwwwwwwww - her expression) and then finally happily ever after?"

That was the discussion at the end of the movie in addition to many more such Q & A session during the course of the movie. The parent in me felt really happy that I do not have to explain (read having to justify against my sense of better judgement, just so that she does not get scared of the big bad world out there) to my child that some of the scenarios that are portrayed in the movie does not necessarily happen in real life (mind voice cynically saying, "Really??" at the exact same instance).

For the first time, watching a movie with a fast-growing-up toddler moving towards her teens, was not a stress but a pleasure. Thanks to Gauri Shinde for another wonderful movie, that was a pleasure to watch with the entire family. It is a movie that we could relate to with our everyday problems in modern context. Personally, I felt that the movie beautifully conveyed a lot of important things that are so much the need of the hour and also, it does the job of a "counsellor" pretty well and costs way less than what one would spend to get themselves treated by a DD "Dhimag ka Doctor" (as the movie calls the psychologist). 

Dialogues like:

1. "Do you go to a DD because you want to tell the world that you are gay?" "No, I go to DD because I want to tell myself that I am gay."

2. "Why should you have to choose the tough path to reach for your most important dream and why not take the easy route if you are not even ready to navigate the tough route that lays ahead of you?" - a wise suggestion for anyone facing a dilemma in life (which is ever existing is everyone's life irrespective of the age or role).

3. "Who are these people that keep following you around who get to decide what is right and what is wrong about the choices in your life?"

4. "When you are comfortable with what you want from life and accept who you are now, then why worry about what others would think?"

5. "Don't let your past blackmail your present to ruin your beautiful future"

6. "Think of your parents are normal people and then look at their actions"

are learning that each of us need in our lives to move forward and embrace the present and welcome the beautiful future that can come tomorrow. Dreading what the future will hold, is a sign that we have let our failures or disappointments from the past to take over our present and hence our future to be scary.

To write one post about the greatness of this movie is not enough. Looking at the movie from various perspectives only makes me in awe of the director's finesse to have handled the concept and importance of Psychotherapy, the taboo attached to getting help for emotional stress one faces in their life, the emotional baggage all of us carry around with us trying to compare us with the unrealistic expectation (which is also probably a self interpretation of what the society wants from us), the misguided mindset of wanting to credit someone other than the one deserving of credit alone to their success in life, attributing personality and status to the dress code and conduct (I can go on and lose track of what I wanted to say when I started the statement). 

The part where Kaira (played by Alia Bhatt) opens up about that one instance that created a fear in her mind which has ruled over her entire life up until that point was well captured. To define what is that one thing that pushes you into the disruptive cycle of depression and fear is a very difficult thing and to bring it on a screen using imagination is even tougher. But the writer, and the actors both have done a phenomenal job. Also, the point where Kaira and Dr.Jug (played by King Khan) part during their last session, is also a brilliant portrayal of reality. This particular concept has been talked about in many movies both in Bollywood and Hollywood in varied levels fo elaboration right from a passing comment in speed "I have to warn you. I've heard relationships based on intense experiences never work." to the Kiss that the teacher gives to the blind girl in movie "Black". This movie has dealt it with openly talking about it and saying it is okay to have such strong feelings towards someone who has emotionally or physically helped you, but equally reciprocating might not be possible or even if a similar reaction is existing from the other person involved also, it may not always be ethically right and/or have a detrimental effect on the emotional progress and then bid adieu and part as just a therapist and patient to go about their separate ways.

The movie ended on another great message about how you just need to fight the battle outside yourself and not within, only then will you be able to achieve your dreams in their fullest glory. This was not the only strong message. When Kaira's uncle (or father) tells Raghuvendra (played by Kunal Kapoor) that she achieved her dream because of him coming into her life for which Raghuvendra pauses a couple of seconds, and then says "She did what she did only because I was NOT part of her life" and raises a toast to it, then both Kaira's father and his uncle tend to agree reluctantly. 

This is one movie, I would probably be buying a personal copy to keep to myself. After movie "Salangai Oli", this is one movie, I am sure I am going to be seeing in repetitions and never get tired of watching even after the point where I can narrate the dialogues by heart. 

#DearZindagi